Many children are used to picking up things belonging to others like their mother’s accessories, a sibling’s toy or their father’s keys with the sole intention of playing with them. These occurrences at home are usually considered normal behaviour many a times overlooked. Small children are incapable in understanding property right or ownership of others and a few undesirable instances might occur when you realize that the child has taken something while you were out shopping or visiting a friend’s place.
If this occurs one needs to politely explain to the child that it amounts to stealing which will not be entertained in any way which the child will eventually get the idea and desist from. It is not necessary to have the child go along with you when returning the object unless except the behaviour has become repetitive and one feels the needs for effective reinforcement. Many already feel repentant when they are caught in the act.
It is only human to express aggressive behaviour towards people when our space or possessions are under threat and only through formidable years of learning and experience that one achieves to exercise self-restraint. Children who are unaware of such restraint initially tend to give full vent to their antagonistic impulse. If however such matters frequently occur, it is usually a response to lack of efficient self-discipline and control from the time he was born. Many times children sense feelings of insecurity when they feel lack of parental attention, being loved or affection with the core of the problem tracing back to the parents.
One needs to closely examine our behaviour with our partner, with deep introspection one will come to awareness of falling short as effectual trainer and role models to our children. It is comparatively easy to prevent a child turning into such aggressive beings than the painstaking and difficult task to restrain one to be less so.
The best way to teach your child to be flexible, gentle and understanding is to inculcate such behaviours in oneself when dealing with the child as children are like mirrors-they reflect what is in front of them.
If sudden spurt in such behaviour or bullying is noticed, there is a definite link with some kind of tension or unhappiness in the child’s life which one needs to investigate. In most cases it boils down to the child’s relations with the parents or the rest of the kin or some pressure or tension in the family.
Brushing such issues under the carpet in an attempt to keep the truth from the child is mostly futile, as the child is bound to pick on the vibes which will only worsen things for you and your child.